Humans of 3010: Ambar Bello

“I wasn’t aware that I was in a really abusive relationship. I found out when I was taking my social work class and my professor was explaining the ideas of an abusive relationship and that moment I just couldn’t believe I had gone through that. I literally just had to leave the classroom and just cry.

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I started going towards people with broken hearts because I could relate to them. I started helping them and leading them. It sort of became my little outlet. Within that, I met someone who said, 'You should start a blog.'

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I haven’t started the blog yet. I just wrote about my entire emotional process. Kind of like a journal, but my journal turned into my prayers. It became my communication with the Lord. It was crazy because every time I would finish writing, I would get a response on how I was feeling at that moment. That became my outlet, and slowly my heart started healing.

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 I realized my identity and self-worth isn’t dependent on anyone. Do you know what I mean? And that’s something I learned throughout the process. I'm never going to depend on someone to give me value and give me worth. That doesn’t come from a person. That comes from you, and then I found that within God as well. And I think I had to reach my complete breaking point to fully learn that. You know? Because with or without him, I'm still going to be me. I'm still going to be okay. Like I don’t need you. I want you, but I don’t you.”